Crush on your personal trainer, what?
Okay, we get it. All that stretching, sweating and panting make your personal training sessions feel very, well, personal. But what do you do when those heated strength training sessions turn into imaginary late night romps?
Firstly, you need to know that you are not alone. Swedish Crown Princess Victoria married her personal trainer and Madonna had a child with hers. It happens.
Secondly, you should probably know there is some very fancy scientific findings behind this dilemma. A study by the Society for Neuroscience in New Orleans found that exercise causes your body to release the chemical hormone oxytocin, the same naughty little hormone released when you begin to fall in love. So basically, the harder your PT works you, the more ‘love hormones’ are released into your body.
On top of literally pumping you with the love drug, your personal trainer is also a beacon of support and encouragement. The gym can be a scary place, yet they’re always there with their rippling muscles and complimentary words. If your trainer is good at their job, they know how to create a strong bond with their clients. Now you need to figure out if they are just doing their job, or wanting to ‘do’ more.
If you are reading this blog, it is more than likely that you have it pretty bad. So, apart from asking your crush if they train their partner to sus out their eligibility, there are a few questions that you need to ask yourself. Are they undeniably reciprocating your blatantly flirtatious comments? Are you 100% sure they aren’t just flirting with you because he/she knows you’re shamelessly gobbling it up and it’s why keep you coming back?
If you aren’t certain that your moves will be reciprocated it is time to back away from the PT. You do your squats wrong so they’ll come adjust your pose and you’ve spent a fortune on new gym gear, not to mention the hours spent daydreaming. It is honestly time to move on.
Alternatively, if you do decide to make a move on your trainer, as with any relationship, make sure you know what you’re getting into. Your relationship with your PT is a working relationship. As with all working relationships, if you cross the line you can’t go back. Also, a real relationship can only start when the professional one ends, so if things aren’t quite lifting off, consider finding a new Personal Trainer and seeing if they make an effort to stay in contact.
If things are already steaming up outside of the gym, you should find a new personal trainer to work with, and do it quick. If things go well you can discuss training together again in the future. Just remember, you want to be the partner they are training, not the client they are dating.